Facesitting — erotic dominance game in an escort context

Facesitting (also known as “face sitting” or “face riding”) is a sexual practice in which a person sits on the partner's face with their genital area (vulva or buttocks). This practice is often used as an erotic game of dominance in BDSM, particularly in the context of female dominance (femdom). Even in escort services, some dominant escorts (BDSM escorts or dominatrixes) offer facesitting as a special fetishism service to create an intense experience of submission and pleasure. Frequently asked questions about facesitting in an escort context are answered below.

At a glance

Facesitting — in which a person sits on their partner's face with their vulva or buttocks — provides intensive oral stimulation, maximum closeness and a pleasurable balance of power. A comfortable position, clear safeword and mindful breathing ensure that the game remains safe, comfortable and thoroughly enjoyable.

What is facesitting exactly?

Facesitting is a sexual practice in which a person literally “sits in the face” of their partner. The sitting (active) person positions their genital area — vulva or buttocks — on the mouth and nose of the partner lying below. This can be done both naked and clothed. It is often a dominant woman who dominates a submissive man in this way; that is also where the term comes from Queening (“Throne like a queen”). In principle, however, facesitting can be practiced in any gender constellation as long as clear roles of dominance and submission are assumed.

How is facesitting practiced by an escort?

In a professional escort setting, facesitting is usually practiced by specialized ladies — often dominatrixes or BDSM escorts who have experience with fetishism and dominance. The process is discussed with the customer in advance, including taboos and safe words. During the session, the submissive part (customer) usually lies on his back — for example on a bed — and the escort lady kneels or sits over his face. She can also fix him (for example, tie her hands) or exercise control through her body weight alone. Some dominatrixes also use special equipment, such as a Queening Stool (throne stool) or a smotherbox to make facesitting more comfortable and safer for both sides

If an escort offers this service, it is usually mentioned explicitly in her profile or service list — often directly as Facesitting or Face-Sit Service. In this way, interested customers can search specifically for a provider who has this dominance game in their repertoire.

Is facesitting a form of dominance?

Yes — in the vast majority of cases, facesitting is an expression of sexual dominance. The person sitting on top has proverbially the control, while the partner lying at the bottom moves into a completely submissive position. Among BDSM practitioners, facesitting is seen as a clear demonstration of superiority and as a means of increasing pleasure through the exercise of power. This is also known as facial dominance, as the dominant person literally dominates the other person's face. For the submissive part, this experience can represent a particularly intense form of erotic humiliation (humiliation) — but at the same time one that is perceived as exciting in the agreement of both sides.

What are the variants and positions of facesitting?

There are various types of face sitting, which differ primarily in position, weight and degree of clothing. position: The sitting person can either sit frontally with a view of the lying partner or in an inverted position. In the frontal version (classic facesitting), for example, a woman sits directly on her partner's face and primarily enables cunnilingus; in the reverse Reversevariant (the person sitting looks at the partner's feet) often focuses on anal stimulation (anilingus, a form of anal play). weight: Some dominants sit on their face with full body weight (Fullweight), while others initially cushion some of the weight in a squatting position — depending on the agreement and comfort of both sides. Apparel: Facesitting can be done undressed or clothed. A special fetish-variant is that Jeanssitting, in which the dominant person wears jeans or other clothing while sitting.

More extreme forms combine facesitting with breath control or unusual environments. For example, is there the so-called Drowning (facesitting under water) or the conscious, complete cutting off of the partner's air supply as part of a breath control game (breath reduction, also Asphyx called). Such intensive variants belong to the advanced BDSM sector and require a lot of trust and experience.

On the other hand, facesitting sometimes also takes place in “normal” lovemaking — in a much gentler form. Without the strict idea of dominance and without full weight exposure, facial riding is occasionally practiced as a variation of oral sex, for example when a woman sits lightly on her partner's face during cunnilingus or anilingus. In this context, the focus is less on submission and more on intensive stimulation.

What are the erotic attractions of facesitting?

Facesitting can be extremely exciting for both parties involved, albeit for different reasons. The dominant part enjoys physical pleasure on the one hand — for example through oral stimulation on the vulva or anus — and on the other hand the feeling of absolute power and veneration. The submissive person, on the other hand, is stimulated in a variety of ways: The partner's weight on the face, the restricted supply of air, the warmth and moisture of the genital area, and direct contact with scent and taste act as intense sensual stimuli. Many submissives find it an ultimate feeling of being at the mercy of being at the mercy of serving the dominant person in an extremely intimate way. The gain in sexual pleasure during facesitting therefore results both from physical stimuli (e.g. oral stimulation or inhaling the intimate smell) and from the fulfillment of a psychological fetishistic desire for dominance and submission. For both sides, facesitting can be a very intimate experience that requires trust and strengthens the bond in the dominant game.

What should you consider when facesitting?

• Communication & consent: Before facesitting, it should be discussed openly what both sides want and where the limits lie. Both partners must agree. It is recommended to arrange a safeword or hand signal so that the lower partner can stop the session immediately if necessary.
• Breathing & safety: The seated person should make sure that the partner has enough air. Regular short breaks to take a breath are important, especially if you have a longer full body weight on your mouth and nose. A slight lift in between or a change of position can help. The person at the bottom shouldn't be afraid to give the agreed signal when it gets too much.
• Hygiene: As with all intimate activities, cleanliness is key — both should be freshly showered. Especially when using anilingus as part of facesitting, additional hygiene (e.g. enema or moist cleaning wipes) can be useful to make the experience pleasant. Some escorts also use licks (dental dams) to ensure safe oral contact.
• Convenience & preparation: For longer sessions, it can be helpful to support the head of the person lying down with a pillow so that the neck does not overstretch. Optional accessories such as a special facesitting stool (Queening Chair) or an upholstered pad can increase comfort.

Is facesitting suitable for beginners?

In principle, even newbies can try out face sitting, as long as both partners feel comfortable doing it and approach it carefully. It is important to talk honestly in advance about any fears or inexperience. An experienced dominant escort will take this into account and adjust the pace and intensity — for example, initially just sitting slightly without full weight load and with frequent breathing pauses. For beginners, it can also be helpful to first choose a less extreme option (such as keeping your underwear on or just sitting for a short time) in order to slowly get used to the unusual feeling. If discomfort, panic or physical problems occur during face sitting, you should stop immediately. However, with good communication and trust, facesitting is an exciting experience even for beginners, which can be increased step by step.

Do all escorts offer facesitting?

No, facesitting is not part of every escort's standard repertoire. Since this is a special fetishism, this offer can be found primarily among escorts who are specifically aimed at BDSM or fetishism services — for example, dominatrix escorts. Dominant escorts who offer facesitting usually point this out in their profile or ad. Classic girlfriend escorts without a BDSM background, on the other hand, rarely offer this service. If you are specifically looking for it, you can search for Facesitting escort filter or search the service lists for terms such as Facesitting, Queening or Smothering Keep an eye out. It is important to always address the topic openly in advance. Without prior consultation, you should never spontaneously push an escort into facesitting, as this would exceed clear limits.

conclusion

Facesitting in an escort context can be an exceptional experience for lovers of dominant eroticism. The practice combines intensive physical stimulation with a pronounced imbalance of power and enables both sides to experience new sensations of pleasure. Provided that both partners act amicably, mindfully and communicate openly across borders, facesitting can be one of the highlights of a BDSM escort encounter. Of course, this fetishism isn't for everyone — but for curious connoisseurs of femdom games and facial dominance, facesitting offers a very special appeal as well as an extremely intimate form of dedication.

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